Eriks will not stop talking about death & dying. Yes, you read that right. Today on the way home from school Eriks was trying to convince me he had a sister that died. Of course I keep telling him no and arguing with him. Finally I put my foot down and told Eriks that I'm older and smarter than him and if he had a sister that died I'd know.
Is this normal for kids his age?? It's driving me nuts!! I keep trying to avoid the subject after explaining it about a million times.
Eriks does attend a religious school and I don't know if they've talked about Je.sus dying on the cross or not. Or maybe he is paying attention at church every Sunday.
Anyone have an explanation?
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Girl,
It is so normal ! Right around the time it was Easter, we talked forever about Jesus, and the bad guys who put him on the cross. Raeghan for the longest time talked about what if you died ? who would take care of me ? and they died ? and they died ? and they died ? I had to promise her we would all die together ! It used to make me cry so much to think of it all !
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Goodness - I have no explanation. I am sure Briana will start asking one day!
I think it's very normal for a child his age to be obsessed with death. A couple of my kids were for sure, and Isabelle talks about it more than I would like. They just need to figure it out.
Have you asked him why he's asking? Or what he thinks happens? Or why he thinks that? He might have all the answers for you, if you turn things around on him and instead of telling him stuff, listen to him.
Also, I would guess that he is having a hard time dealing with still not having a sister- so if he heard somewhere that people die and go away forever, then maybe that is what he would like to think happened to her.
I would definitely try to avoid getting angry with him about this- he's a 4 year old trying to make sense of his world.
yeah pretty normal. is he studying something in school about death or just seeing it on the tv?
My soon to be 7 year old is very concerned about his Grandma dying. His started when he actually paid attention in church a few months ago. We've had many a night that he's gone to bed crying that his Grandma is going to die...then what if I die. Then, he worries that he will die and he wants to know what Heaven will look like and will there be toys and computers there. He's gone so far as to wish he could do a fly by of Heaven to take a sneak peek!
We finally just had to tell him we would talk with God and ask him to let everyone live forever. We told him God said he would think about it. For now, that's enough to keep him mostly at bay. That's just way to much worrying over something no one can control.
Rachel
We went through something similar with Ben. He was very concerned about going to Heaven...he wanted to know what would be there. He was very concerned that there wouldn't be any grocery stores. As he said "I have to eat!". Don't you just love existential angst from a 5 year old.
What about past lives? i had a nephew (was around 5-8yo) that talked about being killed in war, details on how he died and his war buddies too. Ask more questions.
just a thought.
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